– by Lucas Graham, an author at Global English Editing
This article really struck a chord with me. When I first saw the title, I assumed it would be a list of “here’s what’s wrong with you” criticisms, especially since I’ve been distancing myself from certain people over the past few years. But after reading it, I feel so much better. What surprised me most is that I’ve never judged friends of mine who’ve made similar decisions as they’ve aged, I just assumed there was something wrong with me.
Living in a condo has its own challenges because of the number of neighbors you have. Every building seems to have its share of gossips, bullies, and “mean girls” who always have a rotating list of neighbors they dislike and talk about. Ironically, the list changes so often it’s hard to keep track of who’s in or out of their favor. While you can’t like everyone, you can be cordial. A simple “hello” is common courtesy—you don’t need to become best friends.
One strategy I’ve found invaluable for disengaging from gossip is redirecting the conversation to something positive about the person. If they start rumormongering, I’ll ask about their job, kids, hobbies, or their last vacation—anything I know brings them joy. It’s amazing how quickly they shift gears. This tactic keeps me sane, and it benefits them too. Smiling and laughter really do relieve stress, which is why it’s called “the best medicine.”
Below is the condensed version of the article.
Seven Traits of People Who Disown Friends or Family as They Age
1. Focus on Self-Growth
They prioritize personal growth, often letting go of relationships that hinder their progress. This isn’t impulsive but a thoughtful decision aimed at long-term fulfillment. Striking a balance between self-improvement and meaningful connections is key.
2. Prioritize Mental Health
Toxic relationships can drain emotional energy. Those who prioritize mental health may distance themselves from harmful connections
to protect their well-being. Self-preservation becomes essential for their happiness.
3. High Emotional Intelligence
With the ability to understand and manage emotions, these individuals set boundaries and identify relationships that harm their emotional well-being. They know when it’s time to let go for their own good.
4. Embrace Change
They view life as a journey of growth and aren’t afraid to make difficult changes for a better future. This courage allows them to take risks that lead to personal transformation.
5. Value Authenticity
They seek genuine relationships where they can be their true selves. If authenticity is compromised, they’re willing to walk away to build stronger, more meaningful connections.
6. Set Clear Boundaries
Healthy relationships require mutual respect. These individuals are firm about their limits and won’t hesitate to distance themselves if boundaries are repeatedly crossed.
7. Prioritize Quality Over Quantity
Fewer, healthier relationships matter more than many shallow ones. They aim to surround themselves with supportive people who encourage growth and positivity.
Final Thoughts
Disowning relationships isn’t easy—it reflects a journey of self-discovery and a desire for growth. It’s about prioritizing mental health, authenticity, and quality connections while embracing change. These choices, though tough, pave the way for lasting happiness and fulfillment.
